As women, we are constantly questioning ourselves...Why? What happened? What did I do wrong? So, instead of trying to figure it out, we decided to switch things up a bit and ask the men to tell us the answers to our questions. So, naturally we started with, what do Men really think about committed relationships and for that matter, marriage? What makes a man commit or not commit? We interviewed single, married, separated and divorced men, and here are their thoughts:
1. Women don't understand what it means to be a Man: "Let the man be a man" The number one reason why women don't understand men is because they see their potential, and not their character. Women are already looking at the man as their potential husband before they get to know the man's true character. A man wants a woman who can understand his single. By this, I mean understanding his true personality, without the smoke and mirrors. You need to know who you are dating before you start billing him as a husband. "Don't Rush the process". Why are men afraid of marriage you ask? They are afraid because of the unrealistic standards of marriage set forth by women. Every man understands the commitment that comes with marriage; but ladies please understand, our creator, created a man, he did not create a married man. Men are not complex creatures; in fact, complexity runs them away. Finally, I can't say this enough...It's a very bad idea to use pregnancy to tie a man down. Pregnancy is not a solution of getting a man to commit. He may go ahead to marry you but be ready for the worst (infidelity).
3. Men are looking for the Total Package: "Beauty is fleeting." You may be the most beautiful girl around but if you have undesirable qualities, it is likely you will remain single. Your beauty may attract us at first, but eventually we are going to get to the part where we ask, what else do you have to offer?
4. Men value honesty: I need to be able to trust you with fundamental things that we agree on. If I can't trust you with the simple things, that's a problem. Don't say what you think your partner wants to hear when you enter the relationship and then show your true colors after. Differences in ambition can create challenges in a relationship but we need to be able to set goals we want to achieve as a couple. Don't push your partner to do things or force yourself into doing things you are uncomfortable with. Be honest with your man. Agreeing to unrealistic goals just because you want to please your man can create insecurity in your relationship.
5. Finally, Men want to woo you: Yes, we said woo. Ladies, trust me when I say, when a man wants you, he will move heaven and earth to be with you.
When women get to a certain age, they are overcome with the pressures of their biological clock and so they tend to rush the situation which can be unattractive. If a guy spends time with you and isn't asking for something in return (physically), it means he is looking for something more substantive and isn't interested in just the physical. Finally, your body is your temple and if you are willing to let someone in that quickly, it speaks to where your mind is and whether you are ready for a mature relationship. Maybe I'm a guy so I don't understand, but I think women shouldn't worry so much about their biological clock. There are many women who wait to start a family when they find the right partner.
So, Ladies, there you go...from the horses own mouth. What do you think? Share your thoughts with us on Facebook.